WHAT TO DO IF HE IS ABSOLUTELY JUST "NO GOOD" IN BED

So he’s hot, he’s smart, funny, and he’s got a nice car. You thought you hit the jackpot until the first night that you had sex. You were anxious and so was he. The sexual chemistry was right and anticipation was in there but you soon discovered that he has one fatal flaw, and that flaw is that he is just no good in bed.

Well now what? Maybe it was just a fluke? Maybe he was nervous? Maybe you both drank too much? So you wait until the next time, confident that it will be better, but yet again he fails to let’s just say he fails to get you off. The question is, what do you do now?

Well we will admit it, this is a tough one; especially if you really like him and you want the relationship to work out. While there is no answer, there are some things that you can do.

First, ask yourself how bad is it? Is it that he doesn’t last long? Or is it that he doesn’t know what he’s doing? Does he lack confidence? Is he not packing enough heat for you? Is he not able to get it up? Your answers to these questions can point you in the right direction.

If he doesn’t last long, then you can change sexual positions to ones that are conducive helping last longer. For example, cowgirl is usually a great position for guys who need a little help as his sensitivity is slightly decreased while yours is increased.

Probably one of the most ideal reasons for bad sex that you can hope for is that he doesn’t really know how to please you in bed. We say this because this is the perfect opportunity for you take him under your wings and show him what you like and how to please you. In order to do this without bruising his ego, is to talk to him during sex tell him what feels good, how fast or slow he should go, where to kiss and touch you etc.

Believe it or not much in the same way that we have body issues, guys do as well. The only difference is we are much more vocal about ours. We talk to our girlfriends about it, and even talk to him about it. But rarely will he ever confide in you that he thinks he’s too fat, or that he doesn’t think he’s big enough. Rest assured however these thoughts do run through his mind often and the truth is he has to work through them much in the same way you do.

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So the same way you want him to tell you that your pretty, that you’re sexy, etc. you need to tell him the same thing. Guys are performance oriented and because of this they respond heavily to praise.

So tell him things like he’s hot, he has a nice butt, he is too big for you, and you will boost his ego. This ego boost may just turn into a boost in the bedroom as well.

If none of these ideas seem to work, then you may want to just talk with him about it. The only problem with this is going to be your approach and your timing.

The best way to talk with him about his sexual performance is as you are getting ready to engage in your next romantic interlude. Simply stop and tell him what you have been feeling.

Tell him that he turns you on so much and that is why the fact that he isn’t pleasing you in bed so frustrating. Ask him how he feels about it and he thinks the issue might be.

Hopefully you both can have an open and honest dialogue about the issue and work on this together. So that you can enjoy the passionate love making that you deserve.

Have you ever dealt with a guy who just isn’t good in bed? If so, how did you handle it?

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PUBLISHED: MARCH 15, 2020

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